Larenting in Today's World 🌎🌍

With everything going on in today's world, how you end up becoming a paranoid parent? I look back on raising my son and think to myself, how could I let him make friends? Now that he's an adult and he moves in with a friend, roommate, or a spouse, and something happened to him? Does that make me a bad mother? I know he makes his own decisions, but I can't help but wonder if people would look at me and think, "Why didn't you stop this? How could you let it happen?" I feel like I can't let my child (adult) live his life because there are people in my life who would probably judge me and blame me for being a bad mother if something bad happened.